I Blog, Therefore I Am 2011

On August 12, 2007, Mike Wieringo died.  In 2009, I wrote about how Mike and his death affected me.  You can see that original post here: http://woowooleadership.com/i-blog-therefore-i-am-5.

I thought about Mike today.  I never knew Mike personally, but I knew him through his blog.  I checked it just about every day, and Mike updated it often.  I loved reading what he wrote.  It was candid.  It was genuine.  It made me feel like I was a part of his life journey.  

Mike inspired me to write.  A little over a year after Mike died, I started writing my blog.  I’d been hemming and hawing for quite some time, so I just jumped in and got started.  I’ve meandered all over the place ever since.  About 2 and a half years now, to be more precise.

Mike’s blog is still there.  If you visit www.mikewieringo.com, you’ll see his last post from August 10.  That’s just 2 days before he died.  His blog exists as proof that Mike was here.  

Mike was an accomplished, well-known artist.  He had a huge fan base.  He made money doling what he loved.  He was good at it…really good.

My little corner of the internet exists as proof that I am here.  I blog, therefore I am…right?

It’s just good to remind ourselves why we do the things we do, to reaffirm our commitments to ourselves.  And maybe doing so will inspire us to move forward and onward to bigger and better things.

Pardon Me (Hand on Ass)

As the train came to a halt, I reached back to grab one of the handholds.  I grabbed some dude’s ass instead.

“Pardon me,” I said, which is really the funny part of the story because 4 months ago I never would have said the word “pardon.”  Funny how some things just rub off on you.  The dude was standing there reading a book.  He barely looked up when I reached for the handhold and was already back into his book when I begged his pardon.

See, when you commute by train, you get used to the sardine-like conditions associated with the mad rush home.  For some odd reason, and it my experience during my working life has been that it works this way everywhere, people arrive at work on a staggered schedule yet all pretty much bail out at the same time.  This is the period of the mad rush home.  On a train, the mad rush can get…tight.  There’s bumping and brushing up and, at times, inadvertent grabbing.  Like today, for example.

What’s my point?  There is none.  Well, I accidentally grabbed some dude’s ass today and laughed about it as I walked home.  I am grateful I didn’t get my ass kicked in return.  That’s the point, I suppose.

Surprises

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In Lucca, we ate gelato at the first “gelateria” we found. As always, the treat satisfied. We walked a little ways and stumbled across a magnificent church and piazza. We walked some more and found another piazza. This one was bigger than the first. We walked and found another. This is how life in Rome and towns in Tuscany seems to work.

And this is how life works: up every street lies the potential for an unexpected, spectacular surprise.

Seek them out…and enjoy every minute you are there.

Walking Without Attachment

Be here without attachment. Be here without attachment. Be here without attachment…

I’ve discovered one of the most difficult activities I have ever undertaken: walking without attachment.

Try clearing your mind and taking a walk of any length. I walk a bunch every day. I’ve tried this clear-minded walking. It ain’t easy! Sounds simple enough, though, no? Clear mind…no attachment. Walk.

Unfortunately, the state of mind doesn’t last long.

Apparently, our brains love to work at maximum overdrive. They like to label things. The like to measure things. They like to categorize things. They like to predict things. They like to yell at people at whom they’re mad. They like to think about all the bad things that could happen at that particular moment in time. They like to think about all the bad things that can happen to your kids, your spouse, your parents…anyone you know…at that particular moment in time. They like to imagine the most inane, irrelevant, and outlandish things they can possibly conjure. If all else fails, there’s the list of things that are so very, very wrong about you and everything you do.

Our brains, it turns out, don’t like to be silent.

And that is where the soul comes in. Rather, that is where our souls, our spirits, need to come in. Our souls like silence. They like tranquility. They like peace. They like harmony. They like to find stillness and open themselves up to the world around them. They like to take in the sights. They like to appreciate without categorizing. They like to love without expecting anything in return. They like the sounds and smells and feel of everything within the realm of our senses and beyond. If all else fails, there’s the singular, indescribable sensation of becoming connected to the entirety of the Universe.

Our souls, it turns out, are the very essence of silence.

That’s the human struggle, the daily challenge: to balance the necessary work of our brains with the essential silence of our souls. I suspect that the vast majority of human beings, past and present, don’t have a problem with too much silence in our lives. I suspect most suffer from too much brain work. I know I do.

That is why my new favorite activity is to walk without attachment. Every day, it is a challenge to take one more step than the day prior before the voice of my busy brain jumps back into the forefront. The jabbering becomes the default state at some point in our cognitive development. I don’t think it ever shuts up. If you live to be 70, 80, 90, or well past 100, I suspect that voice will never, ever go away. But that does not mean that we cannot train our brains to be silent and to take the back seat, allowing our greater, connected consciousness…our true consciousness…to fill up the space. For me, the training begins each day as I walk without attachment.

Try it. It seems impossible, but perfection isn’t the objective. The objective is to simply achieve a few seconds of clarity, here and there, throughout the day. Just a few seconds of silence…

and a few more…

and a few more…

each day…

walking without attachment.

Stream of Consciousness Alert: The Value of a College Education

A long time ago, in another life, I walked away from my time at university with an undergraduate degree in anthropology.  I was always drawn to anthropology because I grew up in a country with a very rich, very tangible anthropological past.  I mean, by definition, anywhere you find people there’s an anthropological past, but when you can measure, taste, touch, smell, and see that past stretching for thousands of years into the past, that’s a past I think one can call rich.  Stepping into that past was a simple matter of driving into the city to one of the most awe-inspiring museums I’ve ever known.  In the years that we were there, I can’t tell you how many visitors my parents took to see that museum.  Most of the time, I got to go.  Later, when I was old enough to drive and had my own car, I even went by myself once or twice.  The museum meant that much to me.

When I finally landed on anthropology as my major, it was no wonder that I immediately was torn between the two sides of anthropology: physical and cultural.  Having explored another culture and lived in a mixed, international community while living abroad, the interplay between people on the cultural and cognitive level fascinated me.  That fascination led me down other paths of study into disciplines and sub-disciplines in the fields of psychology, sociology, and behavioral science.  In the end, though, it was the physical path that won out.  It all came down to one class in particular: the biological basis for human behavior.

Prior to anthropology, I spent a few semesters trying to make a career out of biology.  Unfortunately, those “hard science” degrees require a few too many math classes for my liking.  At the time, I had a complete (and completely real) mental block when it came to math.  To this day, I am not quite sure how I graduated, that’s how much I struggled with math.  Don’t worry, I’ve long since slain that particular dragon.  The point is that I have always had a thing for biology, too, and I was a bit bummed that I had to give up my love of anatomy and biology.  I was really jazzed about the whole anthro thing, but something was…missing.  And that’s when I took that class: the biological basis for human behavior.

That started me down the path of primatology.  Primatology deals with the study of primates from their behavior to their presence in the fossil record and the evolution of their physical form.  I’ll spare you the total geek-out, but suffice it to say that primatology married everything that interested me at the time.  So, off I went, dead set on becoming the world’s premier primatologist.

Then, one day, a professor said to me, “If there is anything else in the world that you want to do other than this, try that first.  Academic life sucks.  And there is nothing glamorous about standing up to your knees in a swampy jungle with leeches clinging to your legs and monkeys throwing their shit at you.”  

That’s when my primatology career came to an end.  

But all was not lost.  Instead of changing my major to forestry, I instead focused on human development and family studies, a department that brought together the best of psychology, sociology, cultural anthropology, and women’s studies.  That’s right, I said “women’s studies.”  HDFS, as it was called, was just…cool.  What other course of study gives you department credits for taking classes about the history of marriage, child psychology, and the role of women in Western society all in one semester?  Plus, that genetics class and that gender roles in Latin America society class I took that same semester?  Yup, they counted, too.  How cool is that?

That was over 15 years ago.  Today, I hardly use a thing I learned in any of those classes.  My parents spent a crapload of money in order for me to go to college.  I can recall a few handful of moments or lessons that actually serve me today.  However, for the vast majority of people who attend college or university, the same holds true.  Few professions actually require advanced studies, and even fewer actually build upon the specific foundation established in institutions of higher learning.  Instead, what winds up happening is that the individual draws upon the entire synthesized suite of experiences that got them through that time and out into the working world as “college educated” adults.  

In other words, your major course of study probably won’t make a difference as much as the various experiences you have during that period of your life.  Working, studying, traveling, partying, making stupid decisions and living to tell about it…all those things are what will mix together into a cocktail that you will sip from over and over again as the years move along.  You’ll add to the cocktail.  You’ll forget some stuff.  You’ll remember other stuff.  You’ll seek out new experiences because of the old.  Everything you did makes you who you are today, and everything you do today will become a part of the person you will be tomorrow.  Experience trumps all…even if there is a biological basis for your very human behavior.

The value of a college education comes not from what you studied but from the challenges you face and the experience you undertake.  So, for most of us who invested considerable time and money in higher learning, perhaps there is not much value after all.  A college or university is just a place.  There are other ways to get far richer lessons out of life.  

Some of the Time It Really Is Greener

The results of an IT hiring study referred to as the “Tech Talent Crunch” of 2011 were posted on Dice.com.  You can find them here:http://marketing.dice.com/pdf/Dice_TechTalentCrunch.pdf

 

Here’s the interesting thing about the study.  It showed that there are more IT jobs out there than there are qualified candidates.  To be more accurate, many states on the United States are experiencing a shortfall of talent.  Among several keys areas, the study highlights the ten states with the highest job surplus (meaning more jobs than talent).  They are some pretty big states, and I have personal experience with at least three of them.  So, it got me thinking…

 

Something ugly is on the horizon for companies that haven’t been too kind to their employees during this last recession.  After the tech bubble burst, IT professionals took a nice slap to the face.  There were more people than there were jobs, and IT pros felt the pain in the market.  Salaries were “compared to market” and adjusted to bring tech compensation more “in line” with other salaries.  IT was knocked off it’s pedestal, so to speak.  Then the housing bubble burst and the economy went into a more profound tailspin.  IT budgets were slashed again, this time in an effort to cut costs.  Companies were heading towards a crash and jettisoned what they could in order to save the proverbial plane from a fiery end.

 

These things happen.  They come in cycles.  They’ve happened before.  They will happen again.

 

The problem isn’t that they happen.  The problem is what we do when they happen.  My father always told me that it’s not only about what you do but also about how you did it.  The how, I think, is where the problems are going to come from.

 

If you’ve focused on everything but your productive, hard-working, midnight-oil-burning, brilliant IT staff, you stand a very good chance of losing the best and the brightest among them.  These are the people who acquired new skills and worked more hours while people looking to slash created working environments filled with insecurity, fear, and non-stop stress.  They did more with less, just like they were asked to do.  They innovated.  They found ways to economize.  They delivered results despite everything that was thrown at them.  They kept working when they were disrespected as human beings.  You can only do that to someone for so long…

 

Now, the IT jobs are coming back.  The people who were abused…they’re going to leave.  They are going to take those skills and go elsewhere.  Normally, they’ll leave for bigger salaries.  A bunch, though, are going to leave for less, and they’ll do so gladly knowing that they are going somewhere where the work they do is valued and in demand.

 

Sure, it may seem like the grass is greener on the other side…but some of the time it really is greener.

Big Rocks and Dinosaurs

A giant rocky body came from outer space and smashed into the Earth.  Dinosaurs pretty much lost the throne after that.  Men and women with science degrees are in agreement that this is the way it went down.  Sure, there are people with and without science degrees who disagree, but they have the burden of proving all the others wrong.  

 

A giant rocky body slamming into the Earth is a bona fide catastrophe.  It’s life or death (heavy on the “death” part).  It’s truly life-changing, Earth-shattering, mountain-moving.  It’s a big deal.  And it’s sort of inescapable.  You need a lot of luck to survive something like that.  

 

If you’re a dinosaur.

 

If you’re reading this, then you aren’t a dinosaur.  Luck has little to do with getting through life’s challenges.  Extinction-inducing, giant hunks of rock aren’t the obstacles that most of us face.  I recognize that lfe throws some people the kinds of challenges that most of us are grateful to avoid, but we all have our own problems to deal with.   In the vast majority of cases, we’re not facing life or death.  We’re just dealing with inconveniences, delays, embarassments, setbacks…things that won’t kill us or anyone else for that matter.

 

Barring a giant rocky body from outer space smashing into the Earth, tomorrow will come.  Chances are we’ll have the opportunity to try again.  After all, we’re not dinosaurs, are we?

 

The Customer or the Employee?

In some industries, companies lament the death of customer loyalty.  In others, they recognize that loyalty is a tricky concept.  

Loyalty needs to be navigated carefully.  Consumers have choices, and the jump from one brand to another is often a simple matter of price.  Yet, some brands are almost legendary for the fierce customer loyalty that they elicit.  People will pay a premium for value adn quality, but they will also pay a premium when the company producing the brand focuses on things like employee welfare or nurturing the relationship they have with their customers.  These are things that people care about, and, all things being equal, trump the fads and price wars that can cause a customer to jump ship.

I love Land’s End.  They have my size.  Their clothes last a long time.  Once, I replaced two pairs of pants earlier than normal.  They both faded rather quickly.  I was disappointed, but, you know, it’s Land’s End, so I bought two more pair.  When I ordered the pants via their customer service number, I happened to mention that I was replacing my pants because they didn’t last as long.  The woman on the phone told me to send my pants back after I received the new ones.  She didn’t charge me for the replacements.  “Material performance.”  That was the reason she gave for sending me the replacements.  I love Land’s End.

If customer loyalty is important, why isn’t employee loyalty?  Why do companies waste time and money desperately pursuing customer loyalty while, at the same time, slashing budgets and utilizing lay-offs as a means to maximize profit?  That’s business, I suppose.  I obviously pissed away the money I spent on that MBA of mine.  I am naive, I know.  All this time, and I still don’t get it.  I don’t learn.  I guess I’m just one of those people, stuck in the rut, reliving the same year over and over again.  What was that quote?  Something about not having 10 years of SQL experience but, rather, having the same year of experience 10 times over?  

Or maybe I “get it” more than they think.  Maybe I see the mistakes that they are making.  Maybe the answer isn’t more of the same but something radically different instead.  Maybe, just maybe, the answer to the question “The customer or the employee?” isn’t as simple as they think it is.

If it is about loyalty, then maybe the customer will follow your lead.  Restore loyalty to your workforce and the miracle you’re waiting for might just happen.

Leadership without Attachment

I feel like I have stumbled upon a great and secret key to unlocking the mystery of existence. Well, I actually found it on the web. The key is this simple concept: true love is love that is given without attachment. No need for reciprocation. No thoughts about the outcome. No desire for something in return. Even to love a dear friend or spouse or sibling because of their special relationship to you is short of true love. True love electrifies our spirits and the spirits of others because it is love without attachment. Love others because they are fellow humans, living beings with the right to transcend suffering and achieve enlightenment just like you. Love all things, and love them without attachment. Supposedly, that kind of would keep me from getting irritated with my kids when they interrupt me or getting pissed at my wife when she…well…pisses me off. That sounds like a good deal to me and an even better deal for them, so I strive… This is a new labor for me, a vision of great clarity that pervades my thinking these days. My mantra when I become troubled, when ego steps in, when distraction threatens to overtake me is simply “Be here without attachment.” Now I see that this is the essence of impactful leadership. I cannot anticipate the outcome. I cannot impose my desires. I cannot seek to control. I can plan but must plan with others. I can envision but must share in the visioning. I can set direction but must take directions in the process. In every situation, what I lead is not my own. It does not belong to me. If it did, then there would be no one to lead, no need for my leadership. There would just be me and my desires. This is not leadership. Leadership is love for the vision that is co-created and shared with others. Leadership is love for the work without attachment to the work. Work that is free from attachment can become whatever the empty space needs for it to be. Only free people doing work that is free can fill the void. This is leadership without attachment.

Running

When I got off the train today, this kid…about 12 or 13 years old…came bursting out of the door ahead of me and start running.  He took off.  He had a smile on his face.  He was dressed in his school uniform.  A backpack was slung over one shoulder.  A raincoat was slung over the other.  He tore off down the ramp and was up the road and out of sight in a matter of seconds.  He took off running.  Running.

Running.  Frickin’ running.

He ran with purpose.  He ran with complete commitment.  He ran because…well, shit.  He ran because he was 12 years old, and he freakin’ could.

I walked.

Once, long ago, I wan.  At some point, I stopped running.  I stopped running long before the dress shoes and the khakis and the Land’s End Oxford, button-down shirt.  

Running, of course, is a metaphor for the kind of wild, reckless energy that we put into the things we did when we were younger and believed in our own potential.  It’s literal, too.

Something changes along the way, and we forget how to run.  More accurately, we choose to stop running because, you know, running is what kids do.  

Those kids are having fun.  Watch them.  

Life is simple.  Just run.  Run and run and run.  Smile.  Laugh.  And run.

Whatever you do, wherever you do it, do it like that kid coming off the train.  He had school trousers on.  He wore a sweater and an Oxford.  He even wore a tie.  And he still ran.  I bet you the little bugger is still running.  I like to think that he’ll keep running for the rest of his life.  

Wake up tomorrow, and start running.  The rest will follow…literally and figuratively.