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- March 19th, 2009
Conversely, I can take things I learn at home and apply those to work. For example, through the Love and Logic Institute, I adopted the following:
Six Ways to Help Your Children Remain Open to Discipline
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Focus mostly on our children’s strengths rather than their weaknesses.
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Smile at them as often as possible. If your eyes light up when they enter the room, they will take note.
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Write them little notes that tell them how much we adore them.
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Greet them each day with a hug or a high five.
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Make sure that they overhear us talking about how much we love them.
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Deliver our Love and Logic with great empathy, calmness, and sincerity. While I am not an avid practitioner of all six right now, my goal is to balance them better. When I do engage in any of these, I see the results instantaneously. For example, my oldest loves notes. It’s been a while since I’ve written him one, so that’s a mental note for myself. However, when I do write them, he keeps them. A simple sentence or two is enough to make his little heart glow. Similarly, I smile at my boys every chance I get, and I always get a smile back. It lets them know that I love them. I’ve experimented on them and stared without a smile. This has the expected effect on them. Their smiles disappear. They stare back, wondering what’s going on. Inevitably, they ask, “What?” So, a simple look is a powerful, non-verbal form of communication. I’ve taken those six principles and modified them for the workplace. I shared them with several of my peers…more than once, actually. They look like this: Six Ways to Help Your Employees Remain Open to Coaching •
Focus mostly on their strengths rather than their weaknesses.
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Smile at them as often as possible. If your smile when they enter the room, they will take note.
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Write them notes that tell them how much we appreciate them.
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Greet them each day with a hug or a high five. I recommend a genuine greeting. (Hugs from me don’t go very far here.)
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Make sure that they overhear us talking about how much we appreciate them.
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Deliver coaching with great empathy, calmness, and sincerity. See? It doesn’t take much to learn a lesson at home and apply it at work. And vice versa.
Focus mostly on our children’s strengths rather than their weaknesses.
•
Smile at them as often as possible. If your eyes light up when they enter the room, they will take note.
•
Write them little notes that tell them how much we adore them.
•
Greet them each day with a hug or a high five.
•
Make sure that they overhear us talking about how much we love them.
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Deliver our Love and Logic with great empathy, calmness, and sincerity. While I am not an avid practitioner of all six right now, my goal is to balance them better. When I do engage in any of these, I see the results instantaneously. For example, my oldest loves notes. It’s been a while since I’ve written him one, so that’s a mental note for myself. However, when I do write them, he keeps them. A simple sentence or two is enough to make his little heart glow. Similarly, I smile at my boys every chance I get, and I always get a smile back. It lets them know that I love them. I’ve experimented on them and stared without a smile. This has the expected effect on them. Their smiles disappear. They stare back, wondering what’s going on. Inevitably, they ask, “What?” So, a simple look is a powerful, non-verbal form of communication. I’ve taken those six principles and modified them for the workplace. I shared them with several of my peers…more than once, actually. They look like this: Six Ways to Help Your Employees Remain Open to Coaching •
Focus mostly on their strengths rather than their weaknesses.
•
Smile at them as often as possible. If your smile when they enter the room, they will take note.
•
Write them notes that tell them how much we appreciate them.
•
Greet them each day with a hug or a high five. I recommend a genuine greeting. (Hugs from me don’t go very far here.)
•
Make sure that they overhear us talking about how much we appreciate them.
•
Deliver coaching with great empathy, calmness, and sincerity. See? It doesn’t take much to learn a lesson at home and apply it at work. And vice versa.
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